An
OPEN
LETTER to LITERARY AGENTS
and PUBLISHERS
concerning
NEW
WAYS OF LOVING:
How
Authenticity Transforms Relationships
New Ways of
Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
has been a successful small-press book since it was first published in
1976.
NWL is now in its 6th
edition—2007.
In its most recent editions, it has been kept in print
by readers who discovered it on the Internet.
Without any additional publicity,
people keep buying it and reading it.
Literary agents and publishers will have to decide
for themselves
whether New Ways of Loving
has potential to become more popular
if it is published by a well-known publisher
and possibly made available in bookstores.
This letter presents a basic profile of the book for
agents and publishers.
Which publisher would be able to make this book more widely available?
When more copies are printed at one time,
the price per copy can be significantly reduced
from the present prices of $35 wholesale or $80 retail.
And which publisher will keep it in print indefinitely
because it continues to sell year in and year out?
The author—James
Leonard Park—holds
all rights.
The first 6 editions have been published by Existential Books,
a very small publishing company in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
Erich Fromm's The Art of
Loving is the back-list
book that it most resembles.
The Art of Loving has been
in print since 1956—over
60 years.
Every new generation of readers continues to appreciate it.
The same will probably be true of New Ways of Loving
if it is published by a major company with a strong back list.
And what immediate impact would New
Ways of Loving have
if it were offered by a major publisher?
How many people in the wider book world
would like to read this book?
1. BIBLIOGRAPHIC DETAILS:
AUTHOR: James Leonard Park
TITLE: New Ways of Loving
SUBTITLE: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
LIBRARY OF CONGRESS CALL NUMBER: BF575.L8P37 2007)
NUMBER OF PAGES: 264
SIZE: 8-1/2 inches wide X 11 inches tall X 1/2 inch thick
PUBLISHER: Existential Books
PUBLICATION DATE: 2007—6th edition
BINDING: Comb—19
plastic rings set in a black spine—will lie flat
when open
BINDING: Screw posts—5 aluminum posts—does not lie flat when open
BINDING: Loose-leaf notebook—does lie flat when open
ISBN: 978-0-89231-526-0; paperback
WEBSITE FOR THIS BOOK:
https://s3.amazonaws.com/aws-website-jamesleonardpark---freelibrary-3puxk/NWL.html
LIST PRICE: $80 US
WHOLESALE PRICE: $35 US
2. BLURB:
New Ways of Loving challenges
most assumptions about love
and replaces them with new forms of loving relationships.
Romantic love, sexual attraction, & conventional marriage
are replaced by new relationships beginning with our self-inventing
selves.
We can love freely instead of imposing obligations.
We can love without needing, possessiveness, or jealousy.
We can love beyond our imprinted sexual fantasies
and our enculturated gender-personalities.
We can weigh the pros and cons of having children.
And we might even love beyond our existential loneliness.
3. TABLE OF CONTENTS:
Table
of Contents of New
Ways of Loving
If
you click any of the
following chapter titles,
the first two pages of that chapter will
appear on your screen,
including the outline for that chapter.
The complete text of one of the chapters
is available here.
Which chapter would you read first?
Copyright page
This page lists over 20 Library
of Congress subject headings.
Introduction
Replacing
the Old Ways of Loving
PART I From Romantic
Illusions to Authentic
Loving
Ch. 1 Romantic
Love is a Hoax!
Emotional
Programming to 'Fall in Love'
Ch. 2 Loving
from Authenticity
PART II Loving Freely
without Needing
Ch. 3 Loving
in Freedom:
Choice
& Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation
Ch. 4 Loving
without Needing:
Seven
Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them
PART III Multiple
Loving without Jealousy
Ch. 5 Loving
without Jealousy:
As
We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears
Ch. 6 Multiple
Loving: Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy
PART IV Sex-Scripts
& Gender-Personalities
Ch. 7 Loving
Beyond Sex:
Transcending
Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts
Ch. 8 Masculinity/Femininity:
Loving
Beyond Our Gender-Personalities
PART V Birth Planning
Ch. 9 Why
Have (More) Children?
PART VI Loving without
Marrying and three
other chapters
Ch. 10 Loving
without Marrying
Ch. 11 Living
in Separate Households
Ch. 12 Keeping
Relationship Journals
Ch. 13 Loving
in Existential Freedom
PART VII Bibliographies
Bibliographies
for each chapter of New Ways of Loving
4.
AUDIENCE:
New
Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
has been written for the broadest possible audience of
intelligent readers.
It is definitely not a book of pop psychology.
Rather it deals with very difficult problems in relationships
from the entirely new perspective of Authenticity
as defined within existential philosophy and psychology.
See more discussion of
who
has been
reading NWL
over the last four decades.
5.
SHORT
SELECTIONS FROM NEW WAYS OF LOVING:
A dozen short
paragraphs from the book
illustrate some important themes
and show the basic style of New
Ways of Loving.
Quotations
on
the back cover.
6. TWO SAMPLE CHAPTERS
Chapter
4
"Loving without Needing:
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them"
is 24 pages long.
This chapter undercuts the wide-spread belief
that loving relationships arise from needs
that people bring with them when they look for love.
Chapter
12
"Keeping Relationship Journals"
is 4 pages long.
It offers a meaningful way to improve communication.
Literary agents and publishers are reminded
that this book already exists in printed form—
6th edition, 2007.
So all of the
chapters are available for reading.
And the best agent and publisher for this book
will be people who themselves want
to read New Ways of Loving.
But since different persons who must decide about
this book
have different interests and priorities,
each person can begin with whichever chapter seems most interesting.
See the following synopsis of each chapter:
7. A SYNOPSIS OF EACH CHAPTER:
Each
chapter of New Ways of Loving has been summarized below.
These synopses are generally 1-3 pages in length.
And each one is linked to a presentation of the first two pages of that
chapter,
which includes the table of contents of that chapter.
Introduction
Replacing
the Old Ways of Loving
PART I—From Romantic Illusions to
Authentic
Loving
Ch. 1 Romantic
Love is a Hoax!
Emotional
Programming to 'Fall in Love'
Ch. 2 Loving
from Authenticity
PART II—Loving Freely without Needing
Ch. 3 Loving
in Freedom:
Choice
& Flexibility instead of Security & Obligation
Ch. 4 Loving
without Needing:
Seven
Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them
PART III—Multiple Loving without Jealousy
Ch. 5 Loving
without Jealousy:
As
We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears
Ch. 6 Multiple
Loving: Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy
PART IV—Sex-Scripts &
Gender-Personalities
Ch. 7 Loving
Beyond Sex:
Transcending
Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts
Ch. 8 Masculinity/Femininity:
Loving
Beyond Our Gender-Personalities
PART V—Birth Planning
Ch. 9 Why
Have (More) Children?
PART VI—Loving without Marrying and three
other chapters
Ch. 10 Loving
without Marrying
Ch. 11 Living
in Separate Households
Ch. 12 Keeping
Relationship Journals
Ch. 13 Loving
in Existential Freedom
PART VII—Bibliographies
Bibliographies
for most chapters of
New Ways of Loving
8. A COMPANION BOOK EXPLAINING
AUTHENTICITY:
Becoming
More
Authentic:
The Positive Side of Existentialism
Serious readers
of New Ways of Loving:
How Authenticity Transforms
Relationships
want to know more about Authentic
Existence.
9. SEVEN SPIN-OFF ARTICLES READY FOR
SUBMISSION TO MAGAZINES:
Romantic
Love
is a Hoax!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'
.
Becoming
More
Authentic:
The Positive Side of Existentialism
.
Loving
in
Freedom .
Romantic
Jealousy:
Cause & Prevention
.
Separating
Lust
and Love
.
The
Future of
Love and Marriage
.
Sources
of
Sexual Fantasies
.
10. TWO SHORT SPIN-OFF BOOKS BY JAMES
PARK:
The
Romantic
Love Test:
How Do We Know If We Are in Love?
Growing
in Love:
21 Ways to Become Less Dependent and More Authentic
11. A FULL-LENGTH BOOK ON SEX:
Imprinted
Sexual
Fantasies:
A New Key for Sexology
This book (2008) elaborates the themes first introduced in New Ways of Loving:
Ch. 7 Loving
Beyond Sex:
Transcending
Our Imprinted Sex-Scripts.
12. ANOTHER RELATED BOOK:
Designer
Marriage:
Write Your Own Relationship Contract
This book offers alternatives to traditional marriage,
a theme first presented in Chapter 10 of New
Ways of Loving:
Loving
without Marrying.
13. COMPLETE WORKS OF JAMES PARK:
The same author has about thirty
other
books.
These books are also available to be published by a major publisher.
A book contract could include the most likely-to-succeed of these other
books.
14. ELEVEN BIBLIOGRAPHIES OF
BOOKS BY OTHER AUTHORS ON RELATED
THEMES:
If you see publishing possibilities,
write to the author: James Park, e-mail: PARKx032@UMN.EDU
Created
September 27, 2007; Revised 3-9-2008; 3-21-2008; 4-6-2008; 9-25-2008;
3-2-2017;