1. James Park

Growing in Love:
21 Ways to Become Less Dependent & More Authentic

(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 1998)      24 pages
(ISBN: 0-89231-521-0; paperback)
(Library of Congress call number: BD436.P37 1998)

    This small book contrasts dependent relationships (D)
with relationships based in Authenticity (A).
Each of the 21 sections of the book
describes a major feature of dependent relationships
—and its opposite extreme, loving from Authenticity.
For example, Section 21 contrasts:

D21. "I try to control my beloved." with

A21. "We have replaced power-plays by loving in freedom."

    This small book is also available (free of charge) on the Internet:
Growing in Love.

[last]. James Park

"Loving without Needing:
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them"

Chapter 4 of New Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 2007—6th edition)

    This chapter explores the following pre-existing needs:
(1) Security and the Need to Be Needed; (2) Approval;
(3) Romance; (4) Sex; (5) Affection & Intimacy;
(6) Communication & Companionship; and (7) Relationship Structure.

    As we become more whole, autonomous, and Authentic within ourselves,
we are empowered to love without clinging.
This chapter explains how we might go about
transcending or satisfying the pre-existing needs
that might otherwise distort our relationships.

    To see the first two pages of this chapter, click this title:
"Loving without Needing:
Seven Pre-Existing Needs and How to Transcend Them"

    For the table of contents of the whole book
(2007—6th edition), click this title:
New Ways of Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships.