Selected and reviewed by James Park.
These books are listed in order of quality,
beginning with the best.
The red comments are the
evaluations and opinions of this reviewer.
1. Gordon Clanton &
Lynn G. Smith, editors
Jealousy
(Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall, 1977) 244
pages
(Lanham, MD: University Press of America,
1986) 260 pages
(Lanham, MD: University Press of America,
1998---3rd ed.) 326 pages
A collection of essays
from various perspectives.
The best: Margaret Mead "Jealousy: Primitive
and Civilized"
p. 115-126 (all editions).
This essay reviews the wide variety of
marriage patterns,
each with its own models of appropriate
and inappropriate sexual sharing,
with the corresponding presence or absence
of jealousy.
Mead shows that the emotion of jealousy is
a cultural construct.
The revised editions
have the same pages of the prior ones.
The only differences are the addition
of appexdixes
by Gordon Clanton bringing the research
up to date
and exploring such issues as whether jealousy
changes
as history passes thru different phases.
Once jealousy was taken as a healthy sign
of love.
Then it was taken as a sign of insecurity
and low self-esteem.
How will the 21st century understand jealousy?
2. Nancy Friday
Jealousy
(New York: Morrow, 1985) 539 pages
An autobiographical
exploration of the phenomenon of jealousy;
based on: childhood memories of sibling
rivalry;
interviews with other jealous men and
women;
on-going discussions with psychotherapists;
& readings of technical and popular
literature about jealousy.
Useful in distinguishing envy and jealousy.
Nancy Friday explores her personal experiences
of envy and jealousy in depth.
Denials and defenses against jealousy,
attempts to cope with jealousy.
The problem of jealousy is
presented in
very readable ways,
but Friday offers no solutions or
ways
of preventing jealousy.
Sometimes she merely reproduces
her interviews
and discussions without much
attempt to
organize the material.
3. Peter Van Sommers
Jealousy
(London: Penguin Books, 1988) 214 pages
An academic exploration
of jealousy
as observed by anthropology, sociology, & psychiatry.
A comprehensive review of the
literature,
well presented.
But the author presents no new
perspectives
or solutions
to the problem of jealousy.
4. Gregory L. White &
Paul E. Mullen
Jealousy:
Theory, Research, and Clinical Strategies
(New York: Gilford Press, 1989) 340 pages
A comprehensive, scientific
approach to the various problems of jealousy:
the jealousy triangle: (1) the jealous
person, (2) the beloved, & (3) the rival;
nine methods of coping with jealousy;
explaining jealousy by looking for its
genetic sources in the animal kingdom (sociobiology);
the jealous personality; jealousy in other
cultures;
pathological jealousy and delusions of
infidelity; jealousy and sexual arousal;
clinical treatments for pathological jealousy.
This book is more technical than
the other
books,
but the serious student of
jealousy will
find it worth reading.
5. Shirley Eskapa
Woman
Versus Woman: The Extramarital Affair
(New York: Franklin Watts, 1984) 210 pages
The conflict between
the wife and the Other Woman over the man.
Based on hundreds of interviews in Great
Britain.
Many interesting stories of wives and OW's
—and how they dealt with
a wandering husband.
This book takes a definitely
negative
view of having affairs.
It wants to preserve marriage,
often for
the sake of the children.
Descriptive rather than prescriptive.
Explores the problem but offers no
new
solutions.
6. Ayala Malach Pines
Romantic Jealousy:
Causes,
Symptoms, Cures
(New York: Routledge, 1998)
303 pages
(ISBN: 0-415-92010-8; paperback)
(Library of Congress call number: BF575.J4P4715
1998)
A psychotherapist discusses
the many dimensions of conventional jealousy,
especially as seen among clients.
Sometimes jealousy is completely baseless
and irrational.
People suffer fantasy fears for psychological
reasons,
for instance when the 'rival' is long
gone or even dead.
She suggests various psychological methods
for coping with pathological jealousy.
The author believes
that 'normal jealousy'
may even be a healthy sign in a relationship.
This book
does not break
any new ground,
but it might be a place to begin
for readers who have read nothing
on jealousy
before.
7. David M. Buss
The
Dangerous Passion:
Why
Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex
(New York: Free Press, 2000) 258 pages
(ISBN: 0-684-85081-8; hardcover)
(Library of Congress call number: BF575.J4B87
2000)
An 'evolutionary
psychologist' attempts to show
that jealousy developed so that a man
could be sure
that the children of his mate were really
'his'.
Females get jealous because of the danger
of losing a mate
who provides material support for her and the children.
This
reviewer
regards this as a false premise.
Jealous men are not concerned about the
DNA of the children.
Observe the jealousy feelings displayed
on the "Jerry Springer Show".
Are any of these people worried about
reproduction?
Despite this limited
view of the reasons for jealousy,
this book does contain lots of good examples
of people behaving in very jealous ways.
Lots of married people attempt to have
secret affairs.
One chapter explores the violence frequently
associated with jealousy.
And another explores a few conventional
coping strategies.
But this book provides no new
insights
into jealousy.
It main value may be in taking
jealousy
seriously.
If readers need more illustrations
of
jealousy, here they are.
[last]. James Park
"Loving
without Jealousy:
As
We Become More Authentic, Jealousy Disappears",
To see the first six
pages of this chapter, click this blue title:
"Loving
without Jealousy
".
This link will also lead you to a synopsis of this chapter.
Click here for the whole
table of contents of New
Ways of Loving.
[Jealousy Bibliography updated August 2007; revised 3-29-2009;
9-23-2010; 5-25-2018;]
If you would like to read an online, three-page
article on jealousy, go to:
Romantic
Jealousy: Cause and Prevention
.
Many other Internet resources on jealousy
are collected in the Jealousy
Portal
.
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