Heartbreak Prevention:
Loving Beyond Romance, Sex, & Marriage

    Who will read Heartbreak Prevention?
You are already reading it. 
So something must have attracted you to this book.

    Perhaps you have already suffered some kind of emotional damage
because of a 'loving' relationship that went bad.
In its most extreme form, the collapse of 'love'
sometimes leads to murder.
The police know when murder happens
that they should look for someone
who was once emotionally close the victim.

    And when we learn that two people hate each other intensely,
do we wonder if they once were married to each other?
How does 'love' degenerate into its opposite?

    Most personal relationships do not last.  Why?
Half of marriages end in divorce. Why?
Why does 'love' cause so much suffering?

    Veterans of the wars of love
will find some solace in this book.
Unrealistic expectations will be exposed.

    If we understand what went wrong in our own relationships,
we should be able to avoid repeating the same patterns.

    Can we learn from past mistakes?
Will we avoid similar disasters in the future?
Might we warn others away from the same dangers?

    The mythology of romantic love projects impossible fantasies.
Clear thinking can help us recover from romantic delusions.

    As we free ourselves from enculturation,
we can move away from dependent relationships
and begin to love as the freely-chosen persons we are becoming.

    We can transcend all cultural expectations for love
and create special relationships arising from our new selves.
This will empower us to love more freely,
to move beyond the threat of replacement,
and to revise our original gender-pesonalities.

    We can even re-invent sex to express our new beings.

    When we re-create ourselves,
we might so radically change our orientations towards life
that we will no longer want to be married.
Rather than trying to squeeze ourselves into that pattern of love,
we can create new ways of loving
that have never been tried before.




The chapters:

Romantic Love is a Hoax!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'


The Romantic Love Test:
How Do We Know If We are in Love?


Becoming More Authentic:
The Positive Side of Existentialism


Growing in Love:
21 Ways to Become Less Dependent & More Authentic


Loving without Expectations:
Non-Comprehensive Relationships


Loving in Freedom

Romantic Jealousy:
Cause & Prevention


Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy

Beyond Gender Stereotypes

Separating Lust and Love

Sources of Sexual Fantasies

The Future of Love and Marriage

Four Ways to Achieve Same-Sex Marriage


Beyond Marriage



Created August 24, 2014; Revised 9-4-2014; 9-10-2014;
1-28-2015; 2-5-2015; 2-27-2015; 3-13-2015;
7-27-2018;



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