Heartbreak
Prevention:
Loving
Beyond Romance, Sex, & Marriage
Who will read Heartbreak
Prevention?
You are already reading it.
So something must have attracted you to this book.
Perhaps you have already suffered some kind of
emotional damage
because of a 'loving' relationship that went bad.
In its most extreme form, the collapse of 'love'
sometimes leads to murder.
The police know when murder happens
that they should look for someone
who was once emotionally close the victim.
And when we learn that two people hate each other
intensely,
do we wonder if they once were married to each other?
How does 'love' degenerate into its opposite?
Most personal relationships do not last. Why?
Half of marriages end in divorce. Why?
Why does 'love' cause so much suffering?
Veterans of the wars of love
will find some solace in this book.
Unrealistic expectations will be exposed.
If we understand what went wrong in our own
relationships,
we should be able to avoid
repeating the same patterns.
Can we learn from past mistakes?
Will we avoid similar disasters in the future?
Might we warn others away from the same dangers?
The mythology of romantic love projects impossible
fantasies.
Clear thinking can help us recover from romantic delusions.
As we free ourselves from enculturation,
we can move away from dependent relationships
and begin to love as the freely-chosen persons we are becoming.
We can transcend all cultural expectations for love
and create special relationships arising from our new selves.
This will empower us to love more freely,
to move beyond the threat of replacement,
and to revise our original gender-pesonalities.
We can even re-invent sex to express our new beings.
When we re-create ourselves,
we might so radically change our orientations towards life
that we will no longer want to be married.
Rather than trying to squeeze ourselves into that pattern of love,
we can create new ways of loving
that have never been tried before.
The chapters:
Romantic
Love
is a Hoax!
Emotional Programming to 'Fall in Love'
The
Romantic
Love Test:
How Do We Know If We are in Love?
Becoming
More
Authentic:
The Positive Side of Existentialism
Growing
in
Love:
21 Ways to Become Less Dependent & More Authentic
Loving
without
Expectations:
Non-Comprehensive Relationships
Loving
in
Freedom
Romantic
Jealousy:
Cause & Prevention
Open Relationships Beyond Jealousy
Beyond Gender Stereotypes
Separating
Lust
and Love
Sources
of
Sexual Fantasies
The
Future of
Love and Marriage
Four
Ways to
Achieve Same-Sex Marriage
Beyond
Marriage
Created
August 24, 2014; Revised 9-4-2014; 9-10-2014;
1-28-2015; 2-5-2015;
2-27-2015; 3-13-2015;
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