CONVENTIONAL ‘MASCULINE’
GENDER-PERSONALITY
CHARACTERISTICS
R E G R E T T A B L E
N E U T R A
L
A D M I R A B L E
macho, tough, hard
severe
stable
stoical, stern, hard-hearted
solemn
steady
sadistic, cruel
analytical
deliberate
crafty, vindictive
theoretical
strong
disorderly, sloppy
unexcitable
self-confident
noisy, loud
cool
decisive
alcoholic, drug-dependent
controlled
independent
coarse, crude
conventional
determined
superficial, artificial
firm
committed
combative, belligerent, defensive
resilient
active
uses harsh language, easily angered
frank
autonomous
impulsive, impetuous, rash, fearless
sincere
courageous
foolhardy, violent, destructive
leading
brave
boastful, proud, self-centered
commands
enterprising
selfish, narcissistic, egotistical
respect
industrious
arrogant, conceited, affected
robust
task-oriented
non-self-disclosing, secretive
athletic
conscientious
undemonstrative, detached, numb
ambitious
truthful
unemotional, represses feelings
daring
initiating
emotionally immature & dependent
bold
organized
insensitive to others’ feelings
risk-taking
methodical
unempathetic, unsentimental, callous
adventurous
disciplined
fearful of vulnerability & dependence
outspoken
reliable
possessive, jealous
jolly
ingenious
dominant, controlling, domineering
secular
inventive
brutal, ruthless
worldly
creative
punitive, disciplinarian
individualistic
realistic
power-hungry, powerful, forceful
clear-headed
willful, militaristic
skeptical
hierarchical, patriarchal, autocratic
objective
judgmental, demanding
judicious
rigid, stubborn
foresighted
coercive, aggressive, exploitive
rational
loyal (to the cause, team, company)
logical
lost in abstractions, dogmatic
lucid
ideological, patriotic
intelligent
competitive, materialistic
sharp-witted
strives for economic success, prestige
competent
preoccupied with technology
practical
and mechanical things (’toys’)
pragmatic
lacks inwardness, non-spiritual
comfortable
sexually aggressive, polygamous
with math
wants to sire children but not raise them
and science
concerned with sexual performance
providing
obscene, vulgar, uses pornography
protective
intimacy means sex, virile
fatherly
fearful of contact with other men
concerned
fearful of being thought ’feminine’
for justice
concerned with body-image, muscles
takes a stand
watches sports on television
defends
beliefs
132 NEW WAYS OF LOVING: HOW AUTHENTICITY TRANSFORMS RELATIONSHIPS
by JAMES PARK
CONVENTIONAL
'FEMININE’
GENDER-PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS
A D M I R A B L E
N E U T R A
L
R E G R E T T A B L E
tender
charming
submissive, subordinate
warm
attractive
subservient, deferential
loving
humble
passive,
non-assertive
friendly
modest
meek, weak, masochistic
affectionate
chaste
apologetic, vulnerable,
sophisticated
withdrawn
needy, timid, fragile
poised
demure
artificial,
superficial
creative
contented
shallow, ornamental
artistic
simple
frilly, vain
expressive
soft-hearted
conceited, affected
intelligent
inoffensive
sweet & innocent
refined
long-suffering
martyr, self-sacrificial
gracious
emotional
duty-bound, domestic
tactful
excitable
naive,
gullible, dependent
self-confident
nostalgic
tranquilizer-dependent
independent
dreamy
clinging, fawning
sensitive
cautious
needs to please
sympathetic
prudent
needs approval
empathetic
sincere
easily flattered
compassionate
religious
jealous, possessive
caring, kind
monogamous
possessed by and loyal
considerate
childlike
to her man
understanding
secretive
fulfilled thru her
cooperative
interdependent
husband and children
helpful
loves children
fearful, worried
trusting
wants to
bear children
conservative
unselfish
entertaining
inefficient
adaptable
dumb, illogical
communal
moody, high-strung
conscientious
HOW TO USE THIS
hysterical, theatrical
supporting
GENDER-PATTERN CHART
rattle-brained,
soothing
scatter-brained
comforting
1. Mark the words in all
6
unpredictable,
charitable
columns that describe
you.
unsystematic
truthful
2.
Using a different color,
nervous, incoherent
tolerant
mark all
the words that
talkative, frivolous
reliable
describe another individual
flirtatious, coy, sly,
motherly
whom you know
well.
smiling, giggling, giddy
nurturing
3. Note the
colored
fickle,
vacillating
gentle
patterns of these marks.
capricious,
flighty
patient
4. Which words do you wish
devious, petty
praising
to move
to another column?
gossipy,
critical
forgiving
5. What
characteristics
whining, complaining
subjective
would you add or
delete?
nagging,
fussy, prudish
spiritual
6. What
qualities of your-
sexually passive
uncompetitive
self do you want to change?
concerned with
intimacy
7. What
attributes would you
’feminine’
identity
means
change in the other person?
concerned about beauty
sharing
reads romance novels
watches TV soap operas
Chapter 8 MASCULINITY/FEMININITY:
GENDER-PERSONALITIES by JAMES
PARK
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How
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of Loving
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a few concepts or selections from the above pages.
Here is the proper form for the footnote or other reference:
James Park New
Ways of Loving:
How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
(Minneapolis, MN: Existential Books, 2007—6th edition)
p. 132-133
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This Gender-Pattern Chart appears in two books by
James Leonard Park:
New
Ways of
Loving: How Authenticity Transforms Relationships
Chapter
8:
Masculinity/Femininity: Loving Beyond Our Gender-Personalities
The synopsis
of this chapter introduces this Gender-Pattern Chart
and explains some likely misunderstandings.
Variations
of Sex
& Gender: Six Phenomena Frequently Confused
Chapter 4: Gender-Personalities: Thousands of Possible Gender-Patterns
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