WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?
3. Self-Transcendence, Self-Criticism, & Altruism
WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?
Self-Transcendence, Self-Criticism, & Altruism
Man is that "existent"
who lacks common measure with other existents.
Though free, he must liberate himself;
though human, he must humanize himself.
Were a man fully human from birth,
he would simply be an individual case of the human species.
But he is a person, a being we have already seen defining itself
as a perpetual escape from all a priori definition,
continually having to be what it is,
always capable of backing away from itself
in order to write its own history, reflect on its existence,
alter its ways of being, or reaffirm fidelity to it.[Francis Jeanson Sartre and the Problem of Morality
Tr. Robert W. Stone (Bloomington, IN: Indiana UP, 1980) p. 15]
A. Self-Transcendence
We may recognize
our own human spirits
by our capacity to step outside of ourselves
and look back.
Usually our consciousness is focused on
specific contents:
the projects we happen to be working on
at the moment,
the room we are in, the people who share
it with us,
our internal fantasies and worries,
listening to what someone else is saying,
watching television, or reading this chapter.
Such is the stuff of consciousness.
In every waking moment we are conscious
of something.
And even when we are semi-conscious in dreaming,
specific scenes still play on the screen
of our minds.
But once in a while,
consciousness itself comes to our attention.
In such moments we become aware
of ourselves,
we notice that we exist.
Does a cow ever notice that it exists?
Or is its 'consciousness' entirely occupied
by what is sees and feels?
A moment of self-transcendence
takes place
when we not only notice the beautiful sky
and clouds,
but in addition we notice that we
notice.
We discover that we are present in
the magnificent scene.
Such 'moments of vision' or transcendence
might occur spontaneously,
without any expectation or preparation on
our
part.
Any element of nature—dramatic or simple—might
cause self-transcendence.
Or we human beings
might create our own 'moments of vision'.
For instance, art might be an attempt to facilitate
self-transcendence.
Something significant has happened to the
artist;
and he or she wants to stimulate similar
experiences in others.
The artist invites others to step outside
of themselves for a moment.
History
is cluttered with
triviality,
but occasionally something calls us out
of ourselves.
Such historically-induced moments of self-transcendence
might be caused either by important public
events
(Many who were alive in 1963 remember just
where they were
when President John F. Kennedy was shot.)
or by intensely personal and private happenings
(Sex can become a moment of self-transcendence).
As we develop spiritually,
we can create
'moments of vision'.
We learn how to open the doors of our being:
We can decide to look deeply into ourselves.
We might actually spend considerable time
looking inward.
Such exploration might be either constructive
or destructive,
depending on the basic condition of our
spirits.
B. Self-Criticism
As a result of our
capacity to step outside of ourselves,
we can evaluate our selves, look back self-critically.
When we step back for a better view,
we notice qualities we like and qualities
we dislike.
We can examine our traits as persons
much as we would examine the character of
another person,
except that we have the tremendous advantage
of direct access to our own thoughts and
feelings,
whereas we know the thoughts and feelings
of others
only indirectly thru what they say and do.
"Self-consciousness"
is a related capacity of our spirits.
Usually when we say that we are "self-conscious",
it means we worry too much about what other
people think of us.
We might be aware of some genuine faults in
our selves,
or we might be exaggerating our 'faults' far
out of proportion,
even becoming incapacitated by imagining
other people's critical eyes.
But this spiritual
capacity for self-criticism also empowers us
to appreciate good dimensions of our beings
—for instance our creativity and our power
to make free choices.
When we notice these powers within,
we might resolve to enhance these spiritual
capacities.
And even if we get side-tracked from spirit
by other concerns,
new spontaneous moments of self-transcendence
might occur,
reminding us of spiritual depths temporarily
lost in the daily rush.
More often we associate
the notion of "self-criticism"
with the discovery of faults we would like
to correct.
But as flawed as we might be, we have one
thing to our credit
—that we have enough spirit to notice our
faults.
If we were completely spiritless, we would
never notice our defects.
Self-criticism can uncover failings
we didn't notice before.
And eventually our self-critical capacity might empower us to change.
The most important moments of transition in our lives
were probably shaped by this capacity of spirit—self-criticism.
We looked deeply at our current lives.
We found something profoundly wrong or off-center about what we were
doing.
Sometimes without any significant pressures from outside of our selves,
we just chose a different course for our lives:
Self-transcendence
empowered us to step beyond our daily concerns.
Self-criticism enabled
us to see some basic mis-direction of our lives.
And our freedom
allowed us to begin our lives over again.
C. Altruism
Unselfish caring
for others might also show our spirits.
Because we can rise beyond ourselves, transcend
our self-interest,
we notice that others have human thoughts
and feelings.
When they suffer, we want to help them.
When they are joyful, we want to celebrate
with them.
But some people
argue that altruism is an illusion,
that we human beings are
motivated only
by self-interest,
even when we do things that ostensibly benefit
others.
Such acts might be the result of long training
to be 'compassionate';
we might be striving to gain approval from
others;
or we might be motivated by the desire to
feel good about ourselves.
However, those who
discredit altruism might be dogmatic
(like those who deny the possibility of
freedom
—the theme of the next chapter
in this series).
Have doubters of altruism decided ahead of time
to interpret
all human behavior (including sometimes their own behavior)
from the point of view of selfishness—"What's
in it for me?"
If an altruistic act happened, such observers
would not recognize it.
But if we have not
made up our minds in advance,
we might notice self-transcendence and altruism
even in children:
The Littlest St. Nicholas
This story is about
a little boy, 2-1/2 years old, named Nicholas.
It took place in the summer of 1982 on Star
Island in Cass Lake
in northern Minnesota, at (Unitarian Universalist)
Camp Unistar.
It was the last
night of a week-long camp discussing love.
That day Nicholas had fallen from the jungle
gym, breaking his leg.
He had been the center of attention during
an emergency boat trip
to the nearest hospital to have his whole
little leg put in a cast.
That night, as we
were singing in the dining hall of the lodge,
little Nicholas, who was the smallest camper
that week,
noticed that Araby, a 4-year-old girl, was
crying.
(She was tired; and she couldn't read the
words of the songs.)
For a few seconds
Nicholas observed Araby's tears.
Then, without asking what was wrong or telling
her not to cry,
he hobbled over to the wooden bench and
struggled up beside her
and put his little arm around her slightly
higher shoulder.
And she seemed to be comforted.
Nicholas didn't know what the problem was,
but he knew what tears were.
In the third summer of his life, he spontaneously
transcended himself
and responded sympathetically to another
suffering human being.
He had empathy, compassion, kindness—signs
of the human spirit.
AUTHOR:
"WHAT
IS SPIRITUALITY?
3. Self-Transcendence, Self-Criticism, & Altruism"
has been adapted by the author from
Spirituality
for Humanists:
Six
Capacities of Our Human Spirits
In 2011, the 8
chapters
of Spirituality for Humanists
were revised and published as PART II of
Spirituality
without Gods:
Developing our Capacities of Spirit.
This essay became Chapter 9.
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