There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term – but sometimes you need an instant boost. Most of us have a critical inner voice that tells us we’re stupid, not good enough, that we’re too fat, thin, loud, quiet… Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Whatever the situation that’s causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone.
If you believe in a higher power, whether God, or another spiritual force, it can be a real boost to self-confidence to say a silent prayer.
Keep your self-confidence up by taking gradual steps forwards, rather than freezing when faced with what seems like a giant leap. Sometimes people just drag their confidence downhill because they are always repeating negative thoughts to themselves and our thoughts define our reality.
My confidence tip is to maintain a Universal Perspective, remember how small we all are and how fleeting our lives are.
Confidence, I agree about the smile, in Chinese the character for confidence and faith are the same.
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Before we start, it is important to point out that individuals who are confident still have doubts, fears and insecurities about what they are about to do, yet they carry on. Bearing in mind that even confident people have fears and insecurities, let us analyse your current levels of confidence. Scores between 15 and 25 are considered within the normal self-esteem range whereas score below 15 suggest low self-esteem.


Whenever you do any self-assessment like this one, it is important to recognise that it reflects how you are feeling and what your mindset is at that point in time.
Another way to “measure” your confidence levels is to look at different areas of your life and give a subjective rating, say on a scale of 1 to 10, as to how confident you feel. Once you have listed all the different roles and tasks, give a rating as to your sense of confidence levels on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being low and 10 being high levels of confidence. The reasons why some individuals experience low levels of self-confidence might be due to several factors. You can’t walk into an important work meeting, (or a class at college or a room full of strangers at a party) whilst frantically re-reading a self-help manual, or making a last-minute phone call to your life-coach. You don’t just smile because you are happy and confident – you can smile to make yourself feel better. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. Brushing your hair, giving your face a good wash, retouching your makeup, straightening your collar, checking you’ve not got a bit of parsley stuck between your teeth … all of these can make the difference between feeling confident in your physical appearance and feeling anxious about an imagined flaw. By changing our inner voice and speak to ourselves in a more positive way, it will definitely boost our self confidence. That brings up all of the feelings of success and confidence which at least put me in a positive space. This may at first feel intimidating but once you get past the ego and accept this, you will be able to rise above the Battle of the Egos out there and smile at it all (because it is all so, so silly) and this will give you immeasurable self-confidence.
I used to think that by speaking fast, you will picture urself as if you have command over what your are talking and shows your confidence.


It is your interpretation and your sense of whether you feel confident or not in regards to different areas of your life.
If you were to complete the self-assessment another day, you might score things somewhat differently depending on how you feel on the day, what is going on with you and what is going on in your life. It is you measuring how confident you feel within yourself, and this does not compare to others.
Positively reframing these messages will help you feel better about yourself and more confident within yourself.
Chances are, you weren’t feeling very self-confident at the time – and you probably felt even worse afterwards. So, let us explore your own confidence in all areas of your life to help you strengthen it. Yet saying that, there is a self-esteem scale, developed by Rosenberg (1965), and that is still widely used today. You can become more confident and achieve more in life while feeling better about yourself at the same time. We will see that our self esteem is enhanced by greater self-confidence backed up by a positive mental attitude - a life changing combination. You then give each rating a score and the total score gives you an overall indication of level of self-esteem.



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