Take a moment to consider that you might be sabotaging relationship after relationship if you don't get to the root of your fear of being vulnerable.
For many, a fear of intimacy may translate into testing a relationship by picking a partner who is wrong for them — people play it safe by distancing themselves. Gotham BooksAdvertisement - Continue Reading BelowIn Daring Greatly, you define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. For a relationship to be balanced, partners must be able to depend on one another and feel that they are needed and appreciated for the support they give. If you are afraid of showing weakness or exposing yourself to your partner, you might not be aware that your fear is preventing you from being totally engaged in the relationship. Brene Brown is the author of the new book Daring Greatly, and the woman behind the TED talk that got almost 6 million views.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together.
Opening up to our partner can make us feel vulnerable and exposed, but it is the most important ingredient of a trusting, intimate relationship. Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak.
They hear us asking for their vulnerability, but are also very aware that we may act scared or resentful when they show their vulnerable side.
What every single one of us wants to hear in a relationship is, "I see you, I see all of you, and I love you." My husband and I did not come from families where vulnerability was well tolerated. I think it's because, in order for us to tolerate imperfection and vulnerability in other people, we have to be able to accept what is imperfect in ourselves.

If your husband has this risky idea he wants to present at work, you may be more likely to say, "Don't make your boss mad," or "If your really boss wanted your opinion, she would have asked." These are the comments that are flung around every day, and they erode relationships.
If you come from a place of love and have learned to encourage vulnerability, you might instead say, "It takes total courage to speak up.

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