Despite her years of experience and education, the writer discovered the hard way how elusive work is for an Army spouse. But in the military there’s something called “spousal preference,” which is a notation on your application that your significant other is active duty. About eight months into my job search, I was referred to a full-time two-month temporary position similar to my counseling job.
I am married to the Army, so I am expected to mind the front lines by making sacrifices and serving my household so my partner can do the same for his country. Military spouses are often seen as undesirable employees because our addresses change so frequently. In May 2015, the First Lady spoke at the White House about the success of the Joining Forces Initiative, a project that launched in 2011 that works side by side with the public and private sectors to make sure that service members, veterans, and their families have the tools they need to succeed throughout their careers. Having entered into the job market so young, I learned to be responsible, self-reliant and resilient at an age when most kids are usually not employed.
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Military members receive a pay increase when they marry thanks to the basic housing allowance (BAH) allotment. The marriage age for civilians has steadily increased over time, but military members are still marrying at the same age as the typical civilian did in the 1950s, Lundquist said. Popular opinion and some research has long supported the stereotype that military members marry young specifically for the cash. The military all but mandates marriage by largely only recognizing partners who are married for relocation, support during deployment and any monetary benefit, Lundquist said. For the study Lundquist and co-researcher Zhun Xu from Renmin University of China did a series of lengthy interview with 79 Army couples over 11 months at two US Army posts in Germany.
I recently read an article on our Big Daddy site about Marines perpetuating fraud by entering into sham marriages in order to collect BAH. Military officials are charging three California-based Marine corporals with fraud and larceny for entering in a pair of sham marriages to collect housing funding, officials said.

The female Marine found a male Marine willing to get married, allowing them to collect the housing benefit, and the civilian woman also eventually married a Marine and collected funds, 1st Lt.
Marriage is challenging enough when you enter into it with pure and noble intentions and marry someone you actually want to live with…. About AndiAndi is married to an active-duty soldier and is the founder and former editor of SpouseBUZZ. While living in Washington, DC, Andi was the Ambassador to Walter Reed Army Medical Center for Sew Much Comfort, a non-profit organization which makes and delivers, free of charge, special adaptive clothing for wounded service members.
Andi strives to find humor in the good, bad and ugly of life and is a firm believer that laughter has the ability to cure most ills. But now, after having children and relocating, I was competing with graduate students looking for their first jobs, people reentering the workplace with advanced degrees, and formerly active military personnel.
It never occurred to me that I would not have similar employment opportunities as I did back home because of the vows I took. However our partner’s pledge to defend against foreign and domestic enemies should have nothing to do with our right to earn a living wage.
In the current system, if both partners need to work, the civilian spouse is always at a significant disadvantage. Twelve states have already signed on and found their own solutions to some problems military spouses often find within professions that require licensing (like counseling) during multiple moves necessary when one is married to a soldier.
I am proud to live somewhere that takes care of men and women who sacrificed everything so that we, as everyday Americans, don’t have to go without the basic tenets of freedom. It seems to me that this could be a rather complicated undertaking which isn’t worth the trouble. I was married at eighteen (just a month shy of nineteen) to a handsome soldier who was twenty-one at the time. After reading a recent article by army spouse, Traci Moran, (Orange Shorts and Dog Tags) and the comments that addressed the stupidity and awful nature of being married young I felt prompted to embark in conversation concerning the nature of young love in the military.
Without the preference, my application would not meet the qualifications needed to secure an interview. When the position opened to the public I was encouraged to apply and did so using my spousal preference with the full support and encouragement of the department I worked for. We have to be loyal to the military and its demands, and that means we must leave our jobs when our significant other’s orders dictate a move. They’ve developed their own certification guidelines for equivalency standards and military spouse license portability. According to the Clinton Global Initiative 2010 there are approximately 710,000 active-duty spouses—93 percent of them are women. I accepted a position folding souvenir T-shirts and ringing up tourists for $9 an hour, less than what my teenage son made working at the commissary.

I imagine it’s hard to prove most of these cases and I doubt the military wastes already-scarce resources to track whether marriages are entered into simply to collect government funds and other benefits. These are not the only ones and if the military really checked there are thousands upon thousands of shame Marriages in all of the branches.Hey if they checked they could save billions! In the civilian realm marrying young is abnormal, in fact, marriage itself is becoming abnormal but in regards to the military world young love is somewhat of a tradition. We lived at the United States Military Academy at West Point, in New York, and the main campus was within walking distance. Yet my credentials in school counseling still requires recertification in the state it was granted in.
I didn’t give up my right to work in the discipline that I love because I became a military spouse. In this case, I’m not sure how the Marine Corps would be able to prove fraud if, as it states in the story, the couple had not admitted it.
As soon as the title page displayed I saw the grimaces, I heard the snarky remarks, and for a split second I debated faking a technical difficulty. Within months he transferred to another department, and eventually the job series was redesigned to be occupied by a soldier. If I don’t disclose my status, I risk looking unreliable and unprofessional due to the gaps in time on my resume. When my husband and I started dating, he was stationed in the middle of the Mojave Dessert. Representative Adam Smith, GEN David Petraeus, LTG Mike Oates, LTG William Caldwell, RADM Mark Fox, MG Kevin Bergner, MG David Hogg and The Honorable Pete Geren have addressed previous conferences. The self-sufficient, confident person my husband married wasn’t used to having to ask for money to shop, so I turned to credit cards. I used a small amount of money from an internet business I started to send money to my older sons from a previous marriage, believing that I’d be able to bail us out of debt with a new job at our next duty station. Harsh winters at the Academy make it difficult to work off post, and the competition to get Government Specialist positions on post is intense. I’d stressed education to all of my children, the importance of work and knowing your worth.
After a year, I still hadn’t landed a full-time permanent position, so I went back to school for a second advanced degree. But that’s not the only reason I need to work: I started working at 13, legally, with a permit for 19 hours per week as a hostess before I was promoted to waitress.

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