We’ve long ago established that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Over and over, you plug away, trying to make things work, even though it should be readily apparent by now: there’s not necessarily something wrong with YOU, nor is every man in your life fatally flawed. So what we’re here to do is try to reduce this to a simple science, finding a man who’s not just a great guy, but finding a man who’s a great fit for your life.
And let me be the first to tell you, greater happiness doesn’t rest in choosing a guy who’s just like you.
This may not come naturally to you, especially if you’re a smart, strong, successful woman who thinks that you “deserve” a man who is smarter, stronger, and more successful than you are. This creates a conundrum for women who consider themselves in the 90th percentile of everything. Furthermore, these prime specimens of man meat are NOT necessarily looking to date female versions of themselves.
You may want these alpha male studs, but these alpha male studs often prefer women who are less busy, more available, less critical, and lower maintenance. And if you perpetually think that the more impressive you are, the more it’s going to allow you to land an impressive man, I would encourage you to reconsider. Men are looking for someone who makes his life better, simply by being optimistic, silly, sexy, and fun. If you’re a woman who doesn’t consider herself an ambitious, intense CEO type, it will be far easier for you to land one of these men, because you offer a complementary feminine energy to his masculine energy.
So, to me, your takeaway in figuring out how to attract and keep the right guy, your biggest problem is not who you are inside. Because when you choose someone with a complementary energy, the puzzle pieces just fit and the whole thing becomes easy. And I assure you, there’s absolutely no need for dating coaching when you’re in an easy relationship with a guy who is a great fit for your life. I hate spam as much as you do, therefore I will never sell, rent, or give away your email address.
Got divorced, dated too soon, wasn’t looking for serious but a realllllyyyy nice man took the courage to date me, a newly divorced woman. When you’re a woman with an IQ of 147 or better with your own successes, go for a man with integrity, personality, stability and creativity! After those marriages ended, I found myself attracted to men who gave me the love attention, and affection that I did not receive from my ex. Thank you Evan for telling me what I need to do (from a man’s perspective) to meet the right one.
Obviously, for some women this type of a relationship where they play a man’s role would work, just not for all. The blind spot that you articulated, is that you want the alpha male, but the alpha male generally doesn’t want you.

Some alpha males actually like having relationship with their equals. They take comfort in knowing that the woman is not after their money and they would have the safety net of another income, they like having a sounding board, and enjoy being intellectually stimulated.
Many B-Type males tend to be intimidated at women that can care for themselves, and many men that I have come in contact with that fall under that category of complimentary wonder if they can live up to my lifestyle. I think just as we, as women, have to find someone who complements & balances ourselves, men need to be secure in who they are also. When it comes to choosing the right person to spend the rest of your life with, the only one who can be sure if you are choosing well is you. Be honest with yourself and see if you really feel good about your relationship or if your are waiting for something else deep inside. Remember this is another step for you and if you are not doing well now it might need something else. Don't look just for the right man, look for a friend, a person that will always take your hand and be there.
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If love is blind, it’s my job to take the blinders off and let you know how to make slight adjustments that will lead you to greater happiness. In other words, the number of men who are taller, smarter, richer, is going to be a small fraction of the population. I’m nurturing, thoughtful, feminine, like to cook for a guy, be affectionate, playful and sexy.
Being successful in a workplace doesn’t mean that all of those women look to wear pants in their marriage. In my experience, an average MAW (model-actress-whatever) is just as difficult and high maintenance, if not more, than an average female MBA or JD  So when men choose those women, its definitely not for their nice character. Your belief that a man is either chief of cardiac surgery at Sloan Kettering or a busker playing for quarters in the subway is going to cause you a lot of pain. He says sometimes you carry the ball, sometimes he carries the ball & sometimes you both carry it. We all come with the idea of the right man and how we want our lives to be in the future, so here are some tips to ensure that you are following your dreams and that you are being honest with yourself by choosing him. The first thing you should do when thinking about getting married is to ask yourself if the man you want to do it with is the kind of person you want in your future.
Think if you admire him and if you think he has something that you really value and want to treasure it for the rest of your life. You have to think about your goals and what you want to do, and then ask yourself if he is going to support you and be a part of it. She loves to write articles (she has started nearly 60 of them herself!), fix grammar mistakes, organize and revamp articles, and help other wikiHowians. Recently I was asked what percentage of my clients found love by changing their personalities vs.

You might need a guy who is your complement, a supporter, a nurturer, your biggest fan who is your strength when the going gets tough. This is the Dr Pat Allen argument and she does argue for some adjustment on the part of the woman who wants the alpha male.
Your analogy of describing me and half the women who read your blog as “dragon slayers” is a trip!
When I was younger I used to think what in the world are these women thinking being with someone who isn’t equal to them. The man you marry should be the person that will always help you to grow and be a better person in all fields. You must evaluate how his family treats you and how he treats your family, because once you are married you are going to be just one family and you will have to interact with each other's family members all the time. Believe me, I am working through all the blog posts in this website so I can try to understand myself, and men, and dating even better.
At home, I want to be pampered, have my feelings cherished, have my man to lead and make decisions. At least, it’s what led me to be single for 35 years until I found the perfect complement.
These are false equivalents that women like you draw to make their case, except it’s not a real case.
My wife is an international event planner who has been traveling the world for 17 years putting together five star vacations for corporations. And I promise that if you want to find a cute, bright, successful man who’s greatest quality is his ability to put up with you, you can be, too. As much as he liked the fact that I made a good salary he was intimidated that I was a strong woman (something I recognize now as HIS problem not mine).
However, those relationships that you had could have worked, had the women stepped back a little and let YOU be the leader you wanted to be. Drama is what keeps ’em going, what keeps them on their toes and makes them want the woman even more. Add those all up, and you have a man who is really hard to land for a successful forty-year relationship. The second time I married someone whom I did not feel a high level of chemistry or attraction for. Women are empowered to do anything from being a stay at home mom to building empires what does it matter what the man standing next to you does for a living.

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