Dear Parent,

Hi there!

Sometimes when your teen is walking through something really hard, you may need to have a difficult conversation with them.

This month’s Online Parenting Class video discusses How to Have a Tough Conversation with Your Teenager.
It will equip you with some ideas of how to open this type of discussion.

You may be questioning if the time is right to share part of your own story of pain to encourage them. We all have things in our past that we keep hidden from our children, until the Lord reveals when it is appropriate to share. Even the Lord keeps things hidden, but chooses when it’s appropriate to reveal things that will be beneficial to His children: ͞

It is the glory of God to conceal a matter…͟ (Prov. 25:2). Consider what you hope the outcome will be by sharing the information.
What will they take away? Is it the appropriate (or necessary) time? Is sharing the information more about making you feel better, possibly to relieve suppressed guilt?

If sharing this information is going to help your teenager avoid walking down a painful path that you’ve already walked, it might be the right time to share.

Before you do, take time to write down exactly what you’re wanting to say, word for word. Doing so gives you a framework to follow to guard against deviating from the main purpose and divulging information you really don’t need to talk about.

Secondly, consider sharing with a trusted friend exactly what you hope to say. A trusted friend may be able to identify pitfalls and traps in the conversation that you are unable to see clearly because you’re too close to the situation. This is the ͞it takes a village͟ concept in action. Parenting is a team sport, and having a friend to pray for you, to help you discern what is best and to wait in the wings as back up is vitally important.

Rehearse the conversation out loud so what you say to your teen will come out exactly how you’re wanting it to. Use this time to refine what and how you’re going to share. Though you won’t be able to predict how they will react or respond, you’ll be prepared as much as possible.

Finally, remember that this conversation is not about you and your past. It’s about your child. I hope this lesson on How to Have a Tough Conversation with Your Teenager is helpful as you continue to parent your teen. Prayer is powerful and effective, and I would love to be praying for you and your family. Please email me any prayer requests! Pastor

Please Check out this week’s online parenting tips.

Walking with you,

Pastor Mark

There is an epidemic of grown men with the maturity of young boys. Be a parent who saves your child from prolonged adolescence. Raising Men Not Boys helps parents navigate the challenges of today and raise a generation of men on godly principles. Pass the faith on to your sons and equip them to become men of character who contribute to the world.

In She Is Yours, Wynter and Johnathan Pitts offer practical advice and encouragement to assist you in your parenting journey. Parents of four young girls, they've been where you are. They focus on three main issues: 

  • Daughter's relationship with God
  • Daughter's relationship with Parents
  • Daughter's relationship to the world
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