- Develop stable attention
- Mindfulness in daily activities
- Appreciation for your life, and
- Desire to step out of habitual experience, and to help others do it.
Regard whatever you experience, sense, value, or believe as a dream.
Look at what experiences the dream. Don't analyze or speculate. Just look and rest in the looking.
When thoughts about emptiness or non-self arise, look at the thought itself. It releases and you return to your original nature.
You are clear knowing that is beyond intellect, empty clarity in which experience arises unceasingly. When you recognize this, rest right there and do nothing.
Carry the sense of all experience being a magical illusion into your daily life.
As you breathe in, imagine all the suffering and negativity of others as thick black smoke coming in through your right nostril and into your heart. As you breathe out, imagine your own happiness and wellbeing as silvery light coming from your heart and going out through your own left nostril to all beings everywhere.
Whenever attraction, aversion, or indifference arises in you, do taking and sending to transform the three poisons into seeds of virtue.
- As you go about your day, constantly use such verbal reminders as:
- Gain is illusion; loss is enlightenment
- I take all loss and defeat from others; I give all victory and gain to them
Note how you react to others' suffering or your own happiness and wellbeing. Do taking and sending with your own reactions first. When they release into awareness, then do taking and sending with others.
Whatever adversity comes your way, use it as a basis for taking and sending. Take in all the similar misfortunes of others and send out your own sense of presence and equanimity.
Reactive patterns bring about precisely what you're trying to avoid. When things go wrong in your life, blaming circumstances doesn't help. Look at the role your own patterns play in bringing about the pattern.
Every encounter with another person gives you an opportunity to practice mind training and presence, whether the encounter is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral.
All experience is open, vivid, and full of possibility. All three qualities are present in every moment. Experience your life this way.
- Generating goodness
- Clearing away negativity
- Filling obsessions with awareness, and
- Nourishing wakefulness in your life
All experience is in the present. You either open to it right now or you fall into reactive patterns and reinforce them.
- Developing momentum through consistent practice
- Training in all areas of your life
- Sowing virtuous seeds through selfless acts
- Feeling regret about reactive/destructive states of mind, and
- Dedication of personal benefit to everyone's welfare.
- Virtuous seeds to counteract denial
- Dedication to counteract anger
- Regret to counteract bargaining
- Momentum to take you through despair, and
- Training to facilitate acceptance
Presence is the one aim of all practice instructions. Forget about measuring your achievement and rely on the single question: Can I experience what is arising right now?
Feedback from others is unreliable. You know when you are clear and present. Rely on the witness of mind itself.
A deep and quiet joy is always present when your internal peace is such that you aren't disturbed or thrown into confusion by events in the world or by your own thoughts and feelings.
Your training arises naturally to correct imbalances when you encounter unexpected events, just as an expert equestrian corrects imbalances without thinking about doing so.
Intention, action, and balance.
Don't make a public display of your efforts in mind training. Behave naturally with others.
Such talk doesn't help them or you.
Don't pick up what isn't yours.
The strongest reactions generate the biggest imbalances in your being. You can't even see the subtle ones until the strong ones have been dismantled.
Hope for results takes you out of the present. Do what needs to be done now because it needs to be done now, not for the result it might bring.
The poison is the tendency to form around any activity or training. Let go of any sense of being special because you practice mind training.
A sense of duty leads you to overlook nuances in situations, so you react instead of responding to what is needed.
Giving expression to your anger by lashing out at people who offend or insult you only reinforces anger in you. Do taking and sending with the anger itself.
You wait in ambush because you seek revenge. Do taking and sending with the anger that drives the revenge.
Anger takes expression as explosive actions. Know the anger completely before you act.
Life is what you experience. What you experience is your life. Don't try to shift the unpleasantness of your reactive patterns onto another person.
Open to the sense of deficiency, of not being enough, that pushes you to be needlessly competitive.
Your practice is a sham when you use it to gain higher status, greater abilities, or other benefits. Practice is about being present. It is not about your getting something for your efforts.
Mind training becomes a source of reactive emotions when you take pride in what you accomplish with the practice.
Mind training is about ending suffering. Anticipation of gain from others' suffering, or even complacency about it, breaches the intention of this practice.
Bring taking and sending to bear on everything you experience, in formal meditation and in daily life.
Use taking and sending to counteract any reactive tendency that arises.
Start your day by setting the intention to be present and to use taking and sending. End your day with a review of your states of mind during the day.
If things go well in your life, send your wellbeing to others. If things go badly, take on the misfortunes of others. In either case, don't get carried away by what arises.
Internal transformation is the organizing principle of your life. Let go of your commitment to it, and you lose your life. Mind training is the method you use to transform your life. Let it go, and you fall back into reactivity.
- Recognize a reactive pattern
- Develop a way to work on it, and
- Work on it until it releases
- A teacher
- An effective practice, and
- Conditions conducive to practice
- Lack of appreciation damages your relationship with your teacher
- Lack of enthusiasm damages your practice
- Lack of mindfulness in your behavior damages conditions conducive to practice
- Physically, move and sit in attention, aware of your body and behavior
- While speaking, be aware of what you are saying and how you are saying it
- Mentally, cultivate attention and taking and sending all the time
Mind training must embrace every aspect of your life. Whatever you ignore or overlook will consume you.
You lose attention most quickly in the areas that you are most sensitive, so pay attention to important relationships and things that especially irritate you.
Conditions don't affect taking and sending practice. If your experience is good, internally or externally, use the good experience in taking and sending. If things are difficult, do taking and sending with the difficulties.
What's important right now is the level of attention you can bring to what you are experiencing. Nothing else really counts.
When an attitude, behavior, or relationship pulls you out of balance and presence, you are not bringing attention to what is arising. Use taking and sending to experience imbalance itself.
Consistency is the key to effective practice. On again, off again practice never develops any momentum.
Going through the motions isn't enough. You choose to practice. Pour your heart into it.
If you don't push the limits, you will stay as you are. Push on patterns, question assumptions, and don't take anything for granted.
When you brag about how kind you are or how well you do mind training, you are bolstering your sense of self. Send your practice, along with its benefits, to others.
Neither stability nor momentum will develop if you constantly react to minor irritations, slights, or inconveniences.
Acting on whatever pops into your mind prevents you from developing any stability or consistency.
You practice mind training to be free from your own conditioning. Why should anyone thank you? You are the one who benefits.