Weeding Perfectionism Out of Your Life

It is not uncommon to want everything to run smoothly, however, some people take it to 
an extreme. Have you ever had friends or family label you as a perfectionist? It may be 
a badge you wear with pride. Sometimes, you can set standards so high, that they are 
even impossible for you. If perfectionism hinders your daily activities and goal planning, 
try some of these helpful hints for overcoming it:

Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously

Do you base every decision on what others may think? While we can consider other 
people’s opinions, the ultimate decision is ours. Does it matter that all your glasses are 
turned the same way in the cabinet, or your car has a little ding in the bumper? Most of 
the things you fret about probably are not even noticed by others.

Take a breath, relax, and be yourself. Stop sabotaging your social life just because you 
think you think that nothing in your life “measures up”. Give yourself the same courtesy 
that you would show to others. Instead of focusing on things that are not perfect in your 
life, concentrate on the blessings you have.

Do Not Use Perfectionism as an Excuse

How many times have you set aside your dreams and used perfectionism as an 
excuse? You may say that unless you can maintain a 4.0-grade average, you will not go 
back to school. What about hobbies you have wanted to pursue, or your dreams of 
traveling? Your excuse may be that if it does not unfold as you planned, then forget it. 
These façades may hide the fact that you are nervous to try something new. 

Write down some of your goals, and break them down into segments. Instead of 
dreading mistakes, embrace them as a chance to grow and learn. Celebrate each step 
to your final goal—whether it is perfect or not.

Let Up a Little on Others

Not only do perfectionists put unreal expectations on themselves, but they also apply 
them to others. Instead of being grateful and considerate of the people around you, do 
you constantly find fault and express disappointment in everyone? Maybe your parents 
were perfectionists, and their skewed reality affected you. 

Giving people slack does not mean you give up on high standards. It means that you 
accept others as they are, and make the most of what you have. Offer your children 
loving guidance and encouragement instead of condemnation and criticism. Your 
relationship with family and friends will improve.

While you try to overcome perfectionism, remember that it is a process that will not be 
perfect. If you try too hard to change, then it can be self-defeating. Learn to take life as it 
comes, and enjoy every step of your journey.

