How To Get Over A Breakup As Quickly As Possible

What are relationships based on? We often assume they are based on love, and it may feel that way. But dig deeper and you may find that the attraction is more physical than anything else. Perhaps you can live with this...for a while. 

It can be more of a problem when one person is truly in love and the other isn't. When this happens, the relationship is virtually guaranteed to fail. Unfortunately, the person who was truly in love is the one who gets hurt. If this situation sounds familiar to you, then you are probably wondering how to get over a breakup. That's a good question, here are some thoughts that can help. 

Let's be honest for a moment. Going through a breakup is always an unpleasant experience. It can also be difficult to forget about the relationship. These things wreak havoc with our emotions and make life tougher than it should be. We are quick to blame the other person for our feelings, and that's the first mistake.

You need to change your thinking. Nobody else has more control over your thoughts than you. In fact, you are 100% responsible for your thoughts, your reactions and your perceptions. Therefore, if you are able to change the way you look at things, it follows that you can make yourself feel better in the process. 

The first thought you need to change, if it's there, is any anger you have toward your ex. Being angry doesn't affect them at all, and causes unnecessary stress in your life. Do whatever it takes to let go of the anger. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor, forgive them, or focus on the the positive aspects of what you've been through to get past being mad.

Another way of how to get over a breakup is to keep living your life. It's true; life goes on. Of course it's much harder after a breakup, but the last thing you want to do is crawl into a corner and shut out the world. Take care of yourself. Go out and do things with friends; even if you have to force yourself. A word of caution is in order: avoid going to the places you associate with your ex, at least until you know you are over them for good. 

Give it time. There is a reason for the saying "Time heals all wounds"; it's true. You may find comfort in that thought. Sure, you feel awful right now, that's to be expected, however, over the course of time, those feelings will start to go away. One downside to this method of how to get over a breakup is that there is no way to control time. You can't make tomorrow get here a day sooner. 

As mentioned at the beginning of this article, breakups are not pleasant experiences. So, it only makes sense that you would want to get past any pain as quickly as possible. You can go a long way towards doing that by following the advice above.