The Struggle is Real: Dad Life

Real or fake Christmas trees and arrangements with your wife

thestruggleisreal — Mon, 08 Jan 2018 12:00:00 +0000

The real vs fake Christmas tree argument.

Husbands are always the one to deal with Christmas trees.

Real Christmas tree were more expensive this year due to the economic downturn back in 2008.

http://time.com/money/5038943/christmas-tree-more-expensive/

Guys are always the ones to apologize first in an argument.

Kids don’t remember things when they are very young

Projecting your emotions onto your kids is not a clever idea

Chris brings in Starbucks and flowers because his OCD got in the way of cleaning.

Pursuing education later in life can be a struggle

thestruggleisreal — Wed, 27 Dec 2017 02:28:05 +0000

The Struggle is Real: Dad Life Episode 7 - Pursuing education later in life can be a struggle.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Sean’s talks about flight school and his progress through a pilot flight syllabus.

Swearing in flight school and getting corrected by an old lady about swearing while she talks to another adult like a child.

The differences between swearing in the military vs the civilian sector and why it’s different.

Someone else getting in trouble and it is thrown you off your game.

Don’t look at some one while you are flying can be dangerous, especially if the flight instructor is doing it as well.

Different flight gates in civilian flying compared to the military, and becoming a flight instructor.

Balancing time between family, flight school, husband, father, and work.

Dealing with laundry for an family of 6 is like doing one persons laundry for a week in one day.

Getting ahead of your own learning potential when learning something new, and how it could set you up for failure.

Going through flight school with foreigners, and learning something different things for various cultures.

When your busy it can be hard to turn your brain off, because of all the things you must do have to balance such as school, home, and work.

Starting your final papers and major projects a few days before they are supposed to be due, when you have months to do it and getting perfect grades.

Comparing the little amount of effort and time you apply into your classes vs some who put more time into the projects and getting the same grade as them.

Starting educational classes motived, and as you progress through the class you begin to care less and less as time went on.

Chris persuing higher education via a master’s degree program and the struggles associated with that.

Colleges changing their curriculum right before you graduate, and how it’s a scam to make more money sometimes.

The insane amount of time it takes a school to post your degree once you complete it.

Are you happy where you work?

thestruggleisreal — Mon, 11 Dec 2017 07:30:27 +0000

Jeff created a video about how he created his trim in his house, two days after surgery.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nLZEcabkGuc

Theory of identity development.

https://www.learning-theories.com/identity-status-theory-marcia.html

Diving into the nitty gritty of where certain individuals might be in their life.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

By changing the perspective and expectations you change the way in how you see and live your life.

What defines success in your career and how a lot of time success is subjective and not objective.

Working on progression while things from your past keeping you back.

What success looks like to the world.

People can’t sustain a sense of bless all the time. This is just a part of life.

If people feel the need to verbally tell you that they are happy usually aren’t happy.

How a haircut can make someone more approachable or not.

Bad tattoo ideas and why you should never get a tattoo on your head or face.

I accidentally water boarded our kid

thestruggleisreal — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 00:59:23 +0000

Sean might have accidentally water boarded his kid. His 3rd oldest child would listen to him in the bath tub, so Sean pored water over his head.

Sean’s resting B-face. If you notice the Podcast album cover, this is your standard picture of Sean and his normal face.

When all your children are your favorite kid. Why having a favorite in our eyes is impossible.

Jeff’s Dad’s cruel joke about telling him that Jeff’s other siblings were is favorite.

When, as a dad, did you start talking like a dad? Sometimes talking like a dad just happens.

Jeff classically conditioning his daughter. Telling his daughter “Hands up don’t shoot” to make it easier to take her shit off to get her ready for bath time.

http://open.lib.umn.edu/intropsyc/chapter/7-1-learning-by-association-classical-conditioning/

Jeff tells the story of when his daughter fell off the changing table when she was just learning how to sit up.

Kids are tough, and can push through some amazing things.

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/leveraging-adversity/2014/12/five-ways-to-teach-your-kid-to-be-mentally-tough/

the daily struggle of balancing multiple kids in your life, it never ends.

If you plan to have a girl or a boy. You can always try to plan it before the bedroom. Sometimes it’s all about timing and how you do it.

http://www.parenting.com/fertility/boosting-fertility/trying-to-conceive-boy-or-girl-check-out-these-10-tips

Depressions: From feeling nothing to something

thestruggleisreal — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 00:51:17 +0000

We talk about exercising

Running to Mexico and back

Endurance races

Coming from a fat kid to endurance athlete

Depression and the sense of feeling

From Motorcycles to a Prius.

thestruggleisreal — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 00:48:42 +0000

Talk about the Lexus crash in San Diego in 2009

What to do if you’re accelerator pedal gets stuck.

Why Chris bought a Prius

Your wife tries to you into something, and your friend talks you into it

Chris gets a hot tub

Our family dynamics

Varieties types of maturity

Dad problems

Kids testing parents

Dad super powers

You don’t know it’s the last time pick up your kid until it’s the last time.

When your kid says, “mom let me in charge”

My kids OCD

Mom’s want baby girls, dads want baby boys.

Crash in San Diego, with a stuck accelerator pedal.

https://www.nbcsandiego.com/the-scene/cars/Feds-Confirm-Stuck-Gas-Pedal-Caused-Lexus-crash-66214482.html

DIY vs getting a contractor?

thestruggleisreal — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 00:47:28 +0000

DIY vs getting a contractor.

Buying tools.

The list of all the cars and motorcycles we owned.

Why we don’t ride motorcycles anymore.

Chris’s wife teaching him to drive a stick shift.

Chris builds Jeff’s dream backyard in Chris’s backyard.

Pilot: A Peek Behind the Curtain

thestruggleisreal — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 00:46:12 +0000

Pilot: A Peek Behind the Curtain

Cast introductions

Why we created the podcast

Swearing around kids

Life balance

long commutes to work

a peek behind the curtain of the warfighter

when someone thanks you for your service

similarities between military and civilians

sports talk and Chris’s guilty pleasure

Chris’s OCD

Teaser - thanking people for their service, long commutes, silicone valley, and swearing in front of other peoples kids.

thestruggleisreal — Fri, 10 Nov 2017 01:53:31 +0000

Our teaser episode for The Struggle is Real: Dad life.

In this teaser we talk about our cursing in front of kids, and memory. We then move onto Chris and Jeff’s long as heck 160-mile commute to work every week day. We end of closing with a discussion on people thanking us for our service, our being desensitized to what we do for a living, and the similarities between us all as dads.