As far as regrets, we can only regret things that have happened but in doing so cannot change the past. We should learn from our regrets and in doing so try not to repeat them. If we can do that, then there is no need for them to be regrets anymore.

Forgiveness… My definition of forgiveness, taking back the power I gave to someone or something that was used to hurt me. And by doing so, wiping the slate clean.

These are easy concepts for me to preach yet complicated for me to practice. We cannot control how others behave we can only control how we allow it to affect us. Along the same lines, we are the only ones that can control how we treat others.

Knowing that I control the distribution of power to affect me emotionally doesn’t mean I am immune to getting my feelings hurt, or regretting actions I have done. I am only human. I have strong emotions, some of them are painful, some of them are regretful but all of them are mine.

Recognizing that I control the power doesn’t fix everything but it is a useful tool. Before I realize this I would blame others for hurting me, not realizing that I shared in the blame.

I also recognize that there are exceptions to this rule. And it is human nature to experience things on an emotional level first and then to filter it logically.

I still have emotional pain, I still have regrets. But knowing that I’m in control of the power has helped me decrease the population in both categories.

Great article, awesome video and wonderful message.
Forgive others, forgive yourself, but don’t forgive and forget. Forgive and remember because that is how you learn.