NOTE: When a woman worth having sees a man hug another guy she thinks “wow, that guys is so worth knowing! He is secure with himself and unaffected by inane social morays that keep us from connecting with each other through compassion, love and caring.” Man, (no pun intended) they have even proven that hugs are healthy as they prevent stress and make us feel accepted.

Thanks again for this… Riff high fives, pats on rear, bumps knuckles with and hugs this writer.

Any dude that would call a man “gay” for wearing nice clothes has the maturity of a 12 year old- thus boy not man = not masculine… still baby.

I have met very extremely masculine men that prefer to sleep with other men… I have met guys that go through girls like bear in a Coors commercial and they are really not all that masculine. Man hos I don’t find so masculine- I find them insecure- equals 12 year old, equals not man thereby not masculine.

In my book a man takes responsibility- even when its hard to do so- even when it hurts him or he might be killed for standing up for something he believes in. (like your WWII)

In my book a man protects -He takes care of his loved ones the best way he knows how and provides for them. He comes to the rescue of his friends when need be. He works hard not for recognition but pulls his weight so his mates don’t have to.

In my book a man is self-reliant- but accepts the help and partnership of those he loves and cares about. He lets them know he appreciates their help and is unafraid to ask for it.

None of this remotely has anything to do with a man’s sexuality. It has nothing to do with it at all in fact. I cannot reiterate enough that I know gay men that are more “masculine” than straight men- and I say that in the most traditional terms of the definition. They could crack a straight man’s skull with no qualms. It happens.

But if you really want a definition of what a man is to me- look at Rudyard Kipling’s Poem “IF” and you have a good idea of what it takes to really be a man -and thereby Masculine

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jdkaLCGM5k&feature=related

goon “Why you talking at my girl”
girl “Baby he’s gay he’s just a friend”
goon “why you looking at me, f**!”
me “get over yourself!”

and Yes Donny! gay guys like guns too and crossbows and swords and just about everything the NRA endorses as strictly all American male.

Now there’s an article I can refer the many to when one wish to use the term “gay”. This was needed, like a breath of fresh-air.

Out in the real world though, there are some very strange ideas to what makes a man gay. I was asked if I was gay because I don’t support a football team! The crazy thing about this attitude though is how destructive it is OUTSIDE the gay scene. The best friend I spent my life growing up with happened to be gay, as a result I’ve been dragged kicking and screaming like a petrified heterosexual male into that social net -- and I’m so much better for it. Infact it got to the point where if I was asked if I’d rather go to a straight club or a gay one for a night out, I’d say gay club! Every time. Wanna know why straight guys?

Straight club = “Are you lookin’ at may burd!?” fights, smashed pints over heads, fights over girls, fights over spaces at the bar, fights in the toilets… You get the idea.

Gay club = Jokes, laughs, crazy fun cocktails, silly dances, daft costumes, interesting people and usually ZERO bloody noses at the end of the night.

If more straight men could get over the fact that every gay man DOES NOT want to have sex with them, things would be instantly better. Heh, you cant blame us poor straight guys in a way though since we wanna have sex with stuff what, every 2.5 seconds? Apparently…