SYNOPSIS OF CHAPTER VI: IDENTIFYING OUR OWN SEX-SCRIPTS
Because our sex-scripts are usually deeply
hidden in our psyches,
it is often difficult to discover what our ‘sex-files’ contain
and how these responses might have been imprinted.
First we must wish to uncover our own imprinted sexual fantasies.
Our ‘sex-files’ are probably not well organized initially.
Perhaps they are a chaos of images, feelings, experiences, &
fantasies.
And we have no direct way to sit down and read this ‘file’.
Some of the contents of our ‘sex-files’
were inserted before we could understand and use language.
Such contents exist only in non-verbal forms.
Once we have decided to examine our
‘sex-files’,
we have to contend with a censoring ‘file-clerk’ who guards the files.
A part of our minds denies us access to our own basement storage rooms.
But here are a few ways to get past the
‘file-clerk’:
We can try free word-association: What happens in response to
trigger-words?
We might be surprised by some of the connections discovered inside our
minds.
Or we can analyze our involuntary over-reactions to various events,
which might suggest a background in sexual imprinting.
Also we can pay close attention to our dreams
—especially those with obvious sexual content.
At night, the ‘file-clerk’ seems to be asleep.
Our sex-scripts play their fantasies more freely thru sleeping minds.
Who are the other people in our erotic dreams?
What kinds of sexual adventures do we have in dreamland?
Sexy advertising might involuntarily grab our
attention.
These images catch us unawares, when the ‘file-clerk’ is off duty.
We respond spontaneously to whatever attracts our sexual interest.
We can review pornography to see which kinds
‘turn us on’.
If commercially-produced pornography depicts our private fantasies,
we know we are not the only ones who have those responses.
Our sexual imprinting probably preceded our exposure to pornography.
Thus our spontaneous responses to pornographic images and events
disclose the sex-scripts already imprinted in our minds.
If we remind ourselves ahead of time
that we did not create our own sexual imprinting,
we can be more open-minded and less moralistic about our sex-scripts.
A scientific approach to our sex-scripts should help us make explicit
the sexual dynamics that have been operating for most of our lives.
We can uncover the images, stories, fantasies, & objects
that our minds have put together to form our imprinted sex-scripts.
Chapter
VI
IDENTIFYING OUR OWN
SEX-SCRIPTS
by JAMES
PARK
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Created
3-16-2008; Revised