Thinking that you can tell another person to do something and that therefore they have to do it is one of the gravest errors any person can make, yet over and over again this single mistake sinks more relationships -- of all shapes and sizes -- than any other.   The only legitimate manner for one individual to modify the behavior of another individual is to win that other person’s respect.   And there is only one way to real way to win another’s respect and that is to earn it.  Oh, I know there are a thousand and one tricks out there to fool someone into giving you respect and through that getting them to do what you want.  But let me tell you, even though the behavior is altered in these cases, the organism changing on false grounds always senses it on a deep, organic level and the changes it makes in these cases are always tentative and almost always temporary, UNLESS -- and this is crucial -- the promises that start out as false are made to be true in the end.  This transformation is brought about by the force of the bond created by the act of making that promise, its gravity  causing the hidden wieght of  falsity to bear down upon its maker crushing them ever further until at last the need to be free of its weight -- often synonymous with the very need to survive -- forces them to redeem themselves by making the false promise true.  Many fairy tales deal with these very themes, of falsity hiding behind promises, yes,  but also -- and so much more dramatic -- of those instances wherein the great trial of making that false promise into a true one is displayed in all its rigorous glory. And through this transformation it is demonstrated how falsity always bears within itself a truth  but that it is often -- perhaps always -- a different truth than the initial truth which the falsity sought to uphold through its illusion and lies.  This transformation changing the very character and nature of the supposed truth, revealing in the process the multi-faceted nature of truth.

Natural submission occurs when respect is earned.  The tragedy is that the main thing missing here is simple patience -- most people are respectable in the end, and will earn the respect they crave in good time, all in good time; but for a lack of patience and/or simple foresight, they can’t or simply don’t  wait for the necessary time to pass, and therein lies their ruin.