All failed relationships hurt, but letting go of a toxic relationship is actually a gain, not a loss. As youngsters we learn about sex education in grade school, the legality of marriage in our late teens, and perhaps some social psychology in college.  But when it comes down to actually handling the intricacies of real-world relationships, we’re given very little formal guidance… or worse, we’re given advice columns in online beauty magazines. Yes, relationships are trial-and-error from the get-go.  And if you’re like most of us, you’ve experienced plenty of error along the way. The biggest disappointments in life and in relationships are the result of misplaced expectations.  Tempering unrealistic expectations of how something or someone “should be” will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering. Bottom line: Any relationship that’s real will not be perfect, but if you’re willing to work at it and open up, it could be everything you’ve ever dreamed of. When someone you’re in a relationship with continues to blame you for your past mistakes, your relationship is toxic.  If both people in the relationship do this it becomes a hopeless battle to see who has screwed up the most over the years, and therefore who owes the other one more of an apology. If this goes on long enough, both people in the relationship eventually spend most of their energy trying to prove that they’re less guilty than the other rather than solving the present problem.  They spend all of their time trying to be less wrong for each other instead of being more right for each other.
When trust is broken, which happens in nearly every long-term relationship at some point, it’s essential to understand that it can be repaired, provided both people are willing to do the hard work of self-growth. Failing to carve out quality time for important relationships is one of the most toxic relationship mistakes of them all, and yet it often goes unnoticed… at least for a while… until everything starts falling apart.
I have always experienced issues in relationships and it is so true that our culture does not teach us how to create healthy relationships.


I personally avoid relationships with those who believe they posses all the answers to life or the solutions to everyone problems. My girlfriend had a number of obvious emotional abuser like traits (she was definitely not a full blown abuser), but I contributed to the toxicity of our relationship with my own wrondoings.Had I been emotionally healed, I would have never ever engaged in such a relationship to start with. Understandably, due to the nature of the dynamics, the person alledgely suffering the attacks will be the one to start questioning the status quo, and will be, too, the party most likely to exit the relationship at some point. I am still in limbo with this relationship, because I know it was toxic, and I still love him and he is my family (cause family can be toxic sometimes lol), and we are super attracted to each other like crazy, and we have great fun together and have the same goals, but he drives me absolutely crazy!!!
I’ve learned that passive aggressive behaviors are extremely toxic for a relationship. Thank you for this post, I am now better equipped to nurture the beneficial relationships I have and to leave toxic relationships. If your friend frequently gives you back-handed compliments and mixed signals like that, it's probably time to distance yourself. Regardless of the role taxonomy (active-passive, martyr-tormentor, sadic-massoquistic, etc.) used to describe the relationship, or the severity of the disorder of the agressor, it is the complementary conflicted views on relationships from both parties that contribute to its malfunctioning. Though Swift sings that their relationship "used to be mad love," there were red flags early on that the friend wasn't totally trustworthy. But if you're in a healthy, mostly drama-free relationship and your friend is constantly trying to make you second guess or doubt it, there might be some jealousy on her part.


It affected everything in our relationship and I was entirely justified in using that threat to ensure she ultimately got help – if reluctantly. I was in a toxic relation until i let the thing go… now I feel healthier and happier. I had never been in a relationship where emotional blackmail and passive-aggressive behaviour were being displayed, nor could I identify them, I just fought back.
Passive aggression and control are a part of it, its terribly common, and if you are in such a relationship you must try to leave as soon as you can safely do so. I lead the way but because I love my husband and showed him that wisdom comes from making mistakes and honesty is the basis for any relationship, he realized too that living a lie is not living and that he too found happiness in not living in the past. But anyways reading the comments this morning, I saw someone said that the person who is toxic has to want to change no matter if they’re in a relationship or not.
And since I cannot make my ex change and am only in control of my actions, I know that I must change my beliefs as well as my toxic actions, like how sometimes I give him the silent treatment even though it drives him crazy, but since I inherited it from my mom, it is a hard habit to change.



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