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Tired of constantly losing at the dating game, my client, who we will call Grace, decided that she spent too much time during our sessions asking me when and what to text boys. When Grace handed out her number, she made a point to tell the guy she couldn’t receive texts. If you have had your fill of flirty texting that lead only to confusion, anxiety, and more texting, take the uplugged dating challenge and keep us posted on your results! Well…Sam reached his decision and Christmas morning proposed with a beautiful diamond ring he designed himself! This has got to be the best flowchart ever regarding texting.  I love it!!  Thanks for posting it.
One thing I want to include in this feedback submission here, is that I have gotten some of the weirdest text messages from guys I meet only online (Match, EHarmony, Ok Cupid, and Jdate). About a month ago, the comic strip Doonesbury had a sequence where a young woman (Alex) gets stuck in a snowstorm and starts stressing out that her boyfriend Leo hasn’t proposed to her, so she decides to propose — by text! In intimate relationships, particularly in the earlier phases, texting can be the work of the devil. A few years back I got involved with a guy who used text and IM as his main type of communication. I’m more careful who I give my number to these days and if I find a guy who wants to text more than talk or get together, its a red flag. Texting is consistently viewed by guys on OLD as the next step to communication beyond the site, which is sad because it’s such a poor way to get to know someone new. Part me of says waiting an extended amount of time to reply is artificial and lame, and if I really like someone, I should let them know by replying whenever I feel like it.
Rather than waste time analyzing text messages, or decoding cryptic responses, first find out if he is simply the kind of guy that is able to be with one woman, and make her happy.
Some men just prefer the comfort of a virtual relationship, others start interested but that interest quickly wanes with one text too many, but most are doing what women wish they wouldn’t do. Most of the creepy, stalker, and annoying texts have all been from guys I give out my cell phone number too after they ask to go out, and met when joining an online dating service. Put yourself in HIS shoes and think how it will make him feel, not how you hope it will make him feel.


I only ever text family and friends – texting has replaced the phone as the instrument of rude mannerisms.
Overall i think it’s just a recommendation to text less, especially in dating, generally only when Necessary, with rare exceptions. The sad truth is, I found I was initiating more texts, and though he seemed to love them, they volleyed a little less each time, with shorter responses, and the phone calls from him dropped off. They are texting with multiple girls at once and just don’t have the time to date all of them. I began telling my clients to stop giving out there cell phone numbers and go back to using their home phone. That means that there has to be equal effort and reciprocation on your part – so no one should have the upperhand anymore. The profiles seem normal and the pictures attractive, the email interactions are positive but when they ask for my number, or I go out with them one or two times for a drink or bite too eat at a local cafe, I noticed a pattern of receiving some strange texts after wards, which tend to turn me off from the whole situation and any attractive feelings I have for these guys easily leave. So she texted me, (despite the disgust of her daughter who thinks men should do all the chasing) the text was polite and just asked to chat and maybe arrange a coffee.  I was impressed, replied, called her up and we did it.
Meaning, he now thinks that being with you, in a relationship, will mean lots of nagging texts and questions about his whereabouts, and possibly nagging about other things like his clothes, choice of friends, career path, etc, etc,. And if you disagree, don’t get mad at me when your boyfriend breaks up with you via text.
I was in contact with a guy crush for 2 years who I knew from the gym, who only could communicate on Facebook chat and text.  We did speak on the phone occasionally and saw one another weekly at the gym, but the real attraction and chemistry grew over technology. I finally worked out that what he said in a text was not what he said over the phone or to my face. He finally wakes up, smiling like a cheshire cat, and pats the space next to him, indicating he wants you to lie back down. Guys, if a woman drops off the face of the earth, she’s probably waiting for the pursuit. Since Grace was a big internet dater (and I recommended not giving that one up) she emailed with men but again told them she didn’t have text capability.
If this is the right guy (and a good guy) letting your guard down and really loving him is going to be well received.
So we got close, and it was fine, but days later I made the big mistake of sending him multiple texts while he was working, about how good our time was and let’s do it again soon.


So many of my clients contact me when their relationship is in a state of flux, looking for guidance on whether they should work to save it or walk away. A few hours into the party, I got very drunk and overloaded his phone with calls and texts asking when he was coming. You throw his pants at him and watch him stumble to get dressed, knocking over your alarm clock and family photo in the process.
I think they connect on many levels and have a good dynamic between them, so I really hope Jacklyn takes Ryan out of the friend zone before Ryan gets too annoyed that she’s put him there. I let him know I didn’t take it personal and let him know what I really was looking for it ended in sex.
If you are truly in love, and with the right person, then joy should arise despite little (and some big) bumps in the road.
Please help I really wanna try and get him to see it was a genuine drunken mistake and to try and look past it. Regardless of his annoying habits, or her idiosyncrasies, you should really feel immense joy within yourself just be being around the other person.
He started up with the flirtation and I played it  cool in the responses I sent back via text. If you yell back he won’t get that because he will hear your words instead which only provoke him to keep arguing. You met up with him and his friends, had some drinks and ended up back at his place, where at some point in the night you fell completely in love. I know you are likely snapping back and him because you don’t want him to think he can scream at you and get away with it, but the truth is, that is why you end up in a screaming match. I saw him at the gym and we spoke normally, but I did not feel eager at all to engage in any extra communication than what was going on in the present moment.  Each experience is always a lesson learned in love and dating. When I was in love with my ex boyfriend for 8 years, there was no such thing as text messaging. Sometimes, I wish we can go back to the times of the regular telephone and handwritten notes, communication could have been less complex between the sexes.



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