The psychologists at Abo Akademi University in Turku, Finland gathered observations from a population-based sample of more than 12,000 Finns and found that women, on average, are interested in same-aged to somewhat older men than themselves and that this pattern displays itself across the entire life-span. However, even if you were to grant that life span were that short, it would still require that men favored younger women. While I agree with your assessment about evolutionary psychology, in this case the most plausible explanation is that successful reproduction is far more dependent on a younger, healthier woman than it is on a younger man.
Similarly, speculating about what young men are attracted to is pure nonsense, since we have nothing to base it on besides modern culture, so any conclusions from that quarter are rubbish. We tend to think of cancer as being an epidemic today, but in the early 20th century not that many people died of cancer since life expectancy was about age 47 so people didn't live long enough to get cancer; people died from diseases like consumption (TB), tetanus, etc.
Cancer was known to affect some young people and the "Jimmy Fund" began to raise cancer awareness in 1948. I wonder too if the psychologists considered that before the 1920s people preferred to look older than they actually were. I am in my mid-forties and I have been online dating off and on for about 2? years and dating in general for 4 years. So even if this young man’s interest in you is completely pure, even if he wants to have a real relationship with you, you guys are most likely doomed. It just seems far more likely that a) he’s bragging to his friends that he might get to sleep with a woman 20 years older than himself, or b) you guys really might be compatible if only he were significantly older or you were significantly younger.
Evan made all good points, but I don’t think he answered the question as to why men in their 20s find older women interesting. I have a very close friend in her early 50s who looks AMAZING for her age, plays bass in a rock band, is a very lively active woman with lots of young interests. Also, at any age you might find you relate well to an individual(s) who are much younger, but come to find out not on every level. I had no doubt  having relationship with a Lady of mid 40’s (which is she’s not married) , I tell this because we have  both  respect each other!!!
I’ve dated 3 older women, all mothers, not with the same age differential as the emailer. Some researchers have actually discovered that males that succeed usually discover young women appealing.


One more reason older females would date young men is to be able to really feel vibrant once again. Really, rationale of dating a sugar momma is to live the minute as well as not specifically stress over the future. Men younger than 20 prefer women older than themselves, while men older than 30 prefer women younger than themselves. Neanderthals such as the "old man of La Chapelle-aux-Saints" were known to live as old as 40. The young of the 1920s, on the other hand, preferred to rebel against the older generation whom they believed murdered millions of people in World War I and part of that rebellion was that people wanted to look younger. I really enjoy reading your blog and I feel that of many so-called dating experts that you are right on! However, if you’re looking for good, clean (and not-so-clean) fun with a young stallion, you can have an amazing time. But if you are wistful for someone to grow old with, dating out of your generation is not an ideal place to look. Not everyone ofcourse, but my post was geared toward a mid-40’s woman hooking up with a man 20 yrs.
But each year after the 10th year is stressful especially when the younger partner is in early 20s. While at the same time older guys dating young girls was approved and also the envy of men actually. Might be she simply doesn’t find her companion of her age or older so appealing anymore.
Maybe not all of them, and maybe not this particular guy, but most guys in their 20s think an older woman is easier and hornier than women their own age. Being involved with a guy 20 years younger than me and then realizing, on his part but never saying so, that past the initial excitement in dating he realized he’s not comfortable being openly in my life nor comfortable having me in his openly, it has made me sad and depressed. But currently the various other possibility of young men dating older women has actually entered into being.
Women have the tendency to really feel well unwinded with young men that usually feature less luggage.


Put another way, there’s a very good reason that you don’t see many 25 year old men with 45 year old women.
As a fit, attractive, divorced plus 40 year old woman, absolutely the only guys who hit on me are in their 20’s. It is this that makes the women look or younger associations, rather guys that could satisfy her desires. I would proceed with caution, if you’re looking for something more than a fling with a young stud. This is why cougars rather choose young friends that are spontaneous as well as have the power to ease the youthful days. When wealth is not an obstacle the boy can merely obtain caused right into cougar dating hence females are instead rich and also do incline the companion indulging into her riches. There are stories of effective ladies dating more youthful males possibly 10-15 years age distinction in the couple. In fact, the growing old lady is explained to have more vitality and beauty that guys below them fall week in their knees. With no remorses and virtually no disadvantages, cougar dating is one of the most appropriate partnership that every male desires. It can be hard to believe that such things are happening but such partnership is popular as Cougar women dating. Women bear the brunt of the criticism regardless of whether they're on the younger or older side of the spectrum, with the cougar or gold digger labels reflecting a deeply rooted sexism that judges women's sexual activities far more often than men's are judged, said Lehmiller, who teaches at Harvard University.Given that social marginalization hurts a relationship's success, as Lehmiller's research also has found, large age gap relationships may struggle more than same-age relationships, he said. Stigma, and the social sanctions that can follow, also has been blamed for data showing that marrying a man seven to nine years younger increases a woman's mortality risk by 20 percent.



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