Disgusting is rather extreme but no, I certainly would not date someone that much older then me. While I am happy with my spouse, who is the same age as I am (within 3 months), I don't judge people by age, and if Iwere single and met someone 20 years older (or 20 years younger) I would not base my level of interest on their age.
I would not date someone 20 years older than me but, if I were single, I might date someone 20 years younger than me. This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes. Most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy who was alive when JFK was alive. I am a 53 year old man, and am working up to compete in my first Olympic length triathlon, next year.
I plan to travel and have fun, and if someone 20 years my junior, who is amazingly intelligent (AND still liked my) was wanting to have a family, I am willing to negotiate terms and conditions. I like Camila am filing for legal separation due to lack of performance of my 52 year old husband. Yep, I’m the older one in our relationship and while I look and feel older than we first met he is the same. Most women on this board vilify uncommitted men (commitment phobes, man-children, narcissists, etc.) with no compunction. Only to vilify the other woman, when the MAN — who was in the relationship with you — should be one vilified.
I would have commented differently had you (and Stephan and Sharon) wrote with as much anger towards the man as towards the woman. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating. Do yourself a favor and don’t let the older man not enter the dating picture with you. Also, I would note that on most of the online dating sites, most women are doing one of three things.
As the old saying goes, keep doing what you are doing, and you will continue to get the same results. Priya you sound very self-centered wait till you get older then maybe you will respect older men!
Yes, it is just your personal opinion, and not one shared by myself, or other women I personally know who will date men up to 12, maybe 15 years older.


Online dating in the USA is a waste of time for most men were we are often called losers, needy, desperate, and creeps for things out of are control.
There have also been 15 years worth of studies showing that men’s fertility drops with age. My first husband was 19 years older than me-he was just a dog, had nothing to do with his age.
An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up. Yes, I have to work harder to achieve my goals than a 30 year old, but I still can achieve them.
We’ve only been together for a year but like you Tawntawnee we have some of the best times of my life. She’s not a very well balanced lady and I recognize that my ex husband is not a well man but I spent decades trying to help him.
From salt-and-pepper George Clooneys to silver-fox Harrison Fords, young women are swooning over smooth older men more than ever. If you truly listen to what most women tell you they want in a man, regardless of age, they want financial security. This informal study done on Ok Cupid shows how much of a waste of time online dating is for most men. I guess I am the rarity you speak of, but I am 34 and I have dated 50 – 65 year older because I can relate more to them than those my age. I need financial support at my age so I need a man with a big bank account, no kids or ex-wives, and no pre-nup! And the truth is that most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy who was alive when JFK was alive. If he is not tire or taking s nap recovering from his 16 to 17 hours days of work, therefore is not the age that make them old and boring but their  goals and desites. My uncles and aunts, from both paternal and maternal side, on an average have an age gap of 10 years between them. And sherry, 36 was old for you but he could perform, fast forward 10 years and you probably won’t say the same.
These days the idea of young women dating older – often significantly older - men barely raises an eyebrow.
You double check your profile to see if there’s something you wrote that’s attracting these older men.


I do know, however, that as long as they close their minds to dating people who are age-appropriate, they’re really going to struggle with online dating.
Instead of searching through hundreds of thirtysomething women who wouldn’t give you a second look, Reverse Match shows you who IS open to dating a 56-year-old man. Also any man looking for foreign women usually find them in developig countries- as in they (the women)  are desperate and need that golden ticket to the US.
You’ve been watching too many movies Dale, where 55 year old guys are getting hot 30 year olds.
And Evan is right, these older women are underappreciated and in many cases they are undervalued gems.
You definitely need a wake up call you probably date a guy in his 30’s that takes you for granted do not knock us older guys we know how to treat women right! It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. Older men are a lot calmer and have more patience where as the guys my age expect everything to be instant! About a year ago I met a very attractive and intelligent 22 year old woman at work who sought me for the financial security I could provide. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows who Limp Bizkit is. Only the lucky few who have 50-year happy marriages with their first and only loves, will get to sleep with age-mates when they’re old. I mean, if it were me, I’d go with the younger version of Dale as opposed to the older one. It doesn’t stop older men from writing, but at least you don’t have to explain yourself to a man who doesn’t want to hear your perfectly valid explanation.



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