16.12.2014

I want to get pregnant but he always pulls out

New research shows a number of women say they use the withdrawal method as a backup method or in combination with other contraception methods to prevent pregnancy. As a sex educator, I have always been skeptical about the idea of using withdrawal as a method of contraception. As I explained in a piece for RH Reality Check last year, I have been especially concerned at the idea of the so-called pullout generation—30-something women, in long-term relationships, who could easily access and afford other methods but choose withdrawal instead. New research, however, suggests that this cohort might not represent most withdrawal users. Jenny Higgins, a professor at the University of Wisconsin and one of the co-authors of the study, added that the data highlighted two types of users: those she calls “eroticizers of safety,” who are really motivated to prevent pregnancy and add withdrawal to the other methods they are using, and the group of “switch hitters,” who go back and forth between methods depending on what’s available or where they are in their menstrual cycles.
Late 30’s here, with my husband more than fifteen years, good health insurance, educated, and have used the pull-out and rhythm methods for almost ten years.
I understand not advocating its use with a higher risk demographic, but it’s a perfectly safe and sane choice for many people, including couples like your friends.


I just don’t see how the benefits of the method outweigh the risks involved, even in an exclusive long term relationship.
I understand that YOU may not be able to enjoy sex with that risk (pregnancy) hanging over your head every time, but I wasn’t bothered. Withdrawal has undoubtedly prevented countless pregnancies over the years, and as such anyone who doesn’t want to get pregnant should know that it can work really well when used with another method or even by itself when other methods aren’t available.
Nothing is 100%, and when I weighed the risk of pregnancy with the benefit of spontaneous sex, sex without condoms, a life without pills, and a life without a troublesome IUD, withdrawal won out. Of course, I would still tell anyone who doesn’t want to get pregnant about the other contraception methods that work even better, and about the importance of condoms to prevent STIs. I just find it fascinating how many people will defend abortion as a choice, but turn around and criticize a couple for choosing withdrawal over something THEY think is more appropriate.


Moreover, the study found that women who expressed strong pregnancy avoidance attitudes had a higher level of reliance on withdrawal (35 percent) and about half of these women were using withdrawal in combination with a highly effective contraception method.
Studies have shown withdrawal (a 4% failure rate) is almost as effective as condoms (a 2% failure rate), so, for me, the benefits far outweigh the risk- because I hate condoms.
Not everyone can take the pill, not everyone can use an IUD, some people are allergic to latex, not everyone has a trusting and competent partner, not everyone feels the same about how to manage an unwanted pregnancy.



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